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Need to Hire a Caregiver? Things to Consider

“A good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and an evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of.” Luke 6:45

From the multitude of “caregivers” I dealt with in taking care of Mama, I’ve come to define a caregiver as one who cares. That may seem obvious, but just because someone bills themself as a caregiver does not make them a caregiver. If that person doesn’t care or doesn’t give care, that person is not a “caregiver.” That person is a sitter.

Sitters sit. I learned that the hard way and share this hoping you won’t make the same mistake. In Mama’s case they were there to pull a paycheck, so they just sat and watched TV, or looked for something of value to steal, and when asked to help-out, chose to walk out instead.

If you’ve reached the point when you must hire a caregiver, consider these qualifications:

  • They must care.
  • They must love caring for people.
  • They must have loads of patience.
  • They must love serving others.

Finding a caring caregiver is worth the effort. First, ask for recommendations from within your own trusted extended family, circle of friends, and especially among your church family. Some may be willing to take turns on a limited basis.

When I had exhausted all those options, I ran an ad in the classifieds for Christian caregivers and found the most loving lady even though she had never had a job. For three years, she ran Mama’s household the same way she ran her own. When she turned in her notice, that’s when our troubles began.

Ask God to put your discerning spirit on high alert for red flags when contacting agencies and independent “caregivers.” The words they speak, and the attitude of their delivery will tell you all you need to know. Be sure to ask…

  • What makes you a good caregiver?
  • Do you have references?
  • What will they tell me when I call them?”
  • Do you mind if I run a background check?

If they become indignant, let them go. If your questions are welcomed, you might have a keeper.

Remember, when you are putting your loved one in the hands of someone you don’t know, you must be cautious, discerning good and evil.

Time: More Questions Than Answers

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When God said, “Ask,” I took Him up on it. He’s always with me, so I talk to Him about   everything. From my deepest hurts to my greatest joys. As a result I’ve had some amazing conversations with Him. And in the most unexpected times, He speaks to me in “that still small voice.”

I decided to share this experience with you because Habakkuk said, “Write down the revelation and make it plain on tablets so that a herald may run with it.” So this is my tablet, and you can herald or share it if you want.

Recently, I awoke in the middle of the night wheezing. That is significant to me because I’ve lived with a life-threatening illness from infancy, and wheezing is the first symptom of impending problems.

I’ve asked the Lord many times to lift this burden from me. His answer is always what He told the apostle Paul, “My grace is sufficient.” He probably knows that my health issues keep me closer to Him. So He’s got me right where I want Him. Close to me.

The wheezing was so loud it actually awakened me. A heaviness in my chest had returned so I started on bigger doses of medrol. After my morning quiet time, while I walked the dogs that still small voice spoke to me out of the blue.

Your time is short. Spend it wisely.

My mind was immediately flooded with a torrent of possible scenarios, and I wasn’t mentally prepared for any of them. Yet, I felt no panic… just a sense of peace even though this message came to me at a time when I was not well. Being in my seventh decade, “the end” is more prevalent in my thoughts, so it was natural that I would ponder His message from a health point of view. But I did have other questions, too.

Whose time is short? My time personally or the more general “you” as in all of us? Because you see, most of these messages that I receive are for someone else. But those are stories for another day.

And “time” according to whom? My time frame or God’s time frame? Big difference. My time is divided into minutes, hours, days, weeks, months, years, and now decades. But God’s time is eternal. No beginning; no end; and a day is like a thousand years to Him.

“Time is short.” What does “short” mean? Of course I thought “short” meant how much time I have left on earth. After all, I’ve lived more years than I have left.

Or maybe there is a specific window of opportunity open to get a particular something done. I do have several projects lined up and in progress.

Or could it be that there is someone who needs me now? Anyway, I always have more questions than answers, but time will reveal all. And for sure, it will be in God’s good timing, so in that sense “short” is relative. But how relative?

Is God giving me, or all of us, just a few more days or weeks or maybe a year before He swoops me, or all of us, up into His Presence in the heavenlies?

It was two thousand years ago that Jesus said, “I am coming soon.” What does “soon” mean? Two thousand years is not “soon” to my way of thinking, but then again His thoughts are higher than my thoughts, and His ways are higher than my ways. Thankfully, conforming me to His pattern of life and thinking are His specialty, so He admonishes me, or us, to spend our time here on this earth wisely. Since all wisdom comes from God, “wisely” means to spend our time His way, because my way/our ways are foolishness to Him.

Thankfully, God still speaks to those who listen. Are you listening? I am, and that still small voice just told me, “Your time is short. Spend it wisely.” Even though that message could be for me personally, it’s a great reminder for all of us. Our time IS short. Let’s spend it wisely… the way God wants us to.